Here’s the scoop–if you’re married with kids, you need a couple’s getaway! I know this is entirely easier said than done when you have little people–and the littler they are, the harder it is to leave! But you need this! So get ready to call grandma and pack your bags–I’ve got 5 reasons you need a romantic getaway!
1. Reconnect
I don’t need to tell you because you are living this truth…Life gets crazy busy and stressful–especially when you’re raising a family. (In case you were wondering–it’s not just you or your marriage or your crazy kids!)
Sometimes we’re flat-out pooped. Some of us are doing good just to fall on the couch once all the little people are in bed and veg out to Netflix with our beloved. (And Netflix is great–don’t get me wrong! Binge watching shows is a hobby of sorts that my hubby and I passionately share! But real connection requires a bit more effort and communication…)
Time away gives you a chance to disconnect from all the distractions of home and have a little adventure together! You will love it–I promise!
2. Rediscover Yourself
Mommas–we wear so many hats. It is glorious and exhausting all at the same time. How many times have you heard, “Mom!?” today?
It is a true blessing!
But…sometimes we (You, Me, All Us Mommas) get lost under all the hats. Who is that amazing woman under the mom hat?
We ADORE our babies (even the 17-year-old babies that roll their eyes). We adore them so much that our worlds can revolve around them. My schedule is their schedule. My interests are their interests. (Who knew you would become an expert in taekwando?)
But one day they will leave (at least that’s what I’ve been told). And suddenly my schedule will be my own. And I will be left alone with my own interests–and my husband!
Remember there is only one kind, funny, smart, beautiful, and unique you! God has a plan for you–and your children are part of the plan. But they are not your identity. Your identity is in Christ–and He is using all of your unique beauty to bring Him glory and to work out the good, unimaginable plans He has for your life.
A weekend getaway is not only good for your marriage–it is good for rediscovering what makes your own heart sing!
3. Rekindle Passion
I think we all know what that means…
If your house is anything like my house–your privacy is in short supply.
Our 4 year old twins sleep in the sitting room off our bedroom…So, enough said.
Get yourself some “pretty new things,” and enjoy showing them off in the light of day…or at least not in the pitch blackness of your bedroom at midnight!
Put that Do Not Disturb sign to use!!
4. Model the Life You Want for Your Kids
I know you may feel guilty about leaving the kids behind. (Or you may not feel 2 ounces of guilt, and that is perfectly normal and probably means you now have teenagers.)
But here is what I want you to consider…Do you want your kids to feel guilty about having special trips with their spouses some day?
No! We want our kids to go off and have grand adventures and live life to the fullest (and we will happily babysit when the time comes)!
We don’t want them constantly denying themselves and putting themselves last because they think it’s selfish to take a weekend away!
If we make our marriages a top priority–our kids will notice.
Let’s model the life we want for our kids!
5. Rejuvenate
I am tired. I don’t know many moms who aren’t. And I’m not just talking about being physically tired…
I am talking about emotionally tired, mentally tired. You know.
Now complaining isn’t pretty–so forgive my venting…
I’m also tired of laundry, peanut butter sandwiches, dirty dishes, dirty diapers, whining, and being the only one capable of changing toilet paper rolls.
I share all that because there is solidarity in the transparency of motherhood.
A romantic getaway will give you a chance to order your own food–yours alone (and cut your own food, yours alone). It is magical and freeing to only be responsible for yourself. We get a taste of this on date nights–but honestly, you have to physically leave the state to really experience this kind of whimsy!
You will get to eat, rest, sleep, snuggle, and live life on your own timetable! AMAZING–It truly is rejuvenating!
Make it a Reality!
As moms we tend to carry all the emotional and physical needs of our families…
We know when our people are sad, hungry, hurting, happy, tired, scared–you name it…We are picking it up on our mom radar! (And we are usually busy trying to fix it!)
Thinking we need to fix all the things deserves a post of its own.
For now–just know that a romantic weekend away will help you let go of all the things that need fixed (at least for a couple nights).
You, Your Hubby, and Your Kids will all be better for it!
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With Love,
Jen xo
P.S. If you’re looking for great romantic destinations, I always start by browsing Trip Advisor for the Best Romantic Hotels in the United States!
